Let me start off by saying that even though I’m a strong supporter of gay marriage I, by no means, feel that others should be forced to support it because I do. I do not feel that if you’re against it that you’re a bad person or if you’re for it you’re a good person. Each individual is just that, an individual. Your beliefs make up who you are, but your actions or lack thereof define you.
Now that that’s out of the way. The very first argument in this article is this:
"Marriage is creative. The union of man and woman has the inherent potential to create and raise children, and that is what makes marriage a unique relationship. Only male-female relationships can produce children, and having parents committed to each other and their children is best for children. A woman can be a great mom, but she can never be a dad, and a great dad can never be a mom."
I will not argue the point about only male-female relationships being able to produce children. I’m sure there are many scientists that could come up with a way through genetic testing or bone marrow or removing genetic material from an egg/sperm and inserting someone else’s or insert scientific testing here to make it possible for two men or two women to have a child that was uniquely, biologically their own. However, baring scientific breakthroughs, the only way to produce a child is with genetic material from a man and a woman. I also will not argue that a woman cannot be a father nor a man a mother.
This part though, “having parents committed to each other and their children is best for children.” I agree with that. However, my definition of parents does not necessarily mean the man and woman that gave the genetic material to produce the child. If a child is adopted by a man and woman those people are the child’s parents, not the ones who created the child through sexual means. So if a man and woman that did not have the child can become the parents, why not two men or two women? Should heterosexual people that have become divorced not be allowed to remarry because their child will then have two mothers and/or two fathers in their lives? Because two mothers or two fathers can’t properly parent a child according to the arguments against homosexual marriages.
I can hear the arguments of “the mother and the father are still involved with the child.” “It’s two sets of heterosexual parents to provide the child guidance, love, and support.” I’m sure there are many more.
Let me say this though. The argument isn’t that a mother and stepmother or the father and stepfather are negative for the child. So why, is starting out with two mothers or two fathers a negative thing? What about the cases where the biological mother or father are still involved with a child of a gay or lesbian couple? Is it just the couples that aren’t like that who are negative ? What about the influence of aunts, uncles, grandmas, or grandpas? Do those relationships hold no merit for the children simply because they have homosexual parents? I know they have influence on children with heterosexual parents, so why not these children?
"The union of man and woman has the inherent potential to create and raise children, and that is what makes marriage a unique relationship."
Let me point of the word potential in this statement. Does this mean that people who start out without the potential to have children due to some medical reason, regardless of whether they are heterosexual or not, should not be allowed to get married? If that’s the case then elderly people, women who have gone through menopause, are infertile due to endometriosis, another illness, or an accident, and men that are sterile should not be allowed to get married. What about the people that simply choose not to have children? Whether it’s just a personal choice using birth control methods or surgical means, does that disqualify them from marriage? I’m not saying that people who are already married and then become unable to have children or decide not to have more after they’ve have one or more should be forced into divorce. They fulfilled the requirements of marriage. Produce offspring? Check, they can live happily ever after.
In closing, because this turned into a lot more than intended, just because a man and woman produce and raise a child together does not mean that they’ve gotten married. So, I guess what I want to know is this. Is homosexual marriage wrong because it goes against your religion or because it actually has a damaging effect on society?
Myself? I fully intend to marry my partner and raise children together with her. If my future marriage threatens yours then maybe it’s your marriage that needs to be reevaluated.